Consider this the beginning of your quest for a new and fruitful self awareness. Let your major focus be on your family of origin. Your original family was the unity from which you came. If it was a functional unit, that family was the source of your individuality and strength and emotional buttress. You family of origin, if functional, gave you a permanent conviction of belonging. Your original family is where you lived out the most passionate and powerful of all your human experiences.
As you examine what a functional healthy family is, you can also focus on the family you are now in or the one you are creating.
There are healthy and fully functioning families. To say that something is functional is to say that everything works. My car, for example may be functional have rust spots on the trunk, but if it drives well, then it is fully functional. It works.
A functional healthy family is one in which all the members are functional and all the relationships between the members are fully functional. As human beings, all family members have available to them the use of all their human powers. They use these powers to cooperate, individuate, and get their collective and individual needs met. A functional family is the healthy soil out of which individuals can become mature human beings. This involves the following.
A. The family is a survival and growth unit
B. The family is a the soil which provides the emotional needs of the various members. The needs include a balance between autonomy and dependency and social and sexual training.
C. A healthy family provides the growth and development of each member including the parents.
D. The family is the place where the attainment of self esteem takes place.
E. The family is a major unit in socialization and is crucial for a society if it is to endure.
The family is the soil for mature people making,what does it mean to be a mature person? Stay tuned...
(Bradshaw On: The Family)
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