1.The events of this world don’t make you angry. Your thoughts create your anger. Even when a genuinely negative event occurs, it is the meaning that you attach to it that determines your emotional response.2.Most of the time your anger will not help you. It will immobilize you, and you will become frozen in your hostility to no productive purpose. You will feel better if you place your emphasis on the active search for creative solutions.
3.The thoughts that generate anger more often than not will contain distortions. Correcting these distortions will reduce your anger.
4.Ultimately your anger is caused by your belief that someone is acting unfairly or some event is unjust. The intensity of the anger will increase in proportion to the severity of the maliciousness perceived and if the act is seen as intention.
5.If you learn to see the world thorough other people’s eyes, you will often be surprised to realize their actions are not unfair to their point of view. The unfairness in these cases turns out to be an illusion that exists only in you mind!
6.Other people usually don’t feel they deserve your punishment. Therefore, your retaliation is unlikely to help you achieve any positive goals in your interactions with them.
7.A great deal of your anger involves your defense against loss of self-esteem when people criticize you, disagree with you or fail to behave as you want them to.
8.Frustration results from unmet expectations. Since the event that disappointed you was part of “reality”, it was “realistic”. Thus, your frustration always results from unrealistic expectations.
9.It’s just childish pouting to insist you have the right to be angry. The crucial issue is—is it to your advantage to feel angry? Will you or the world really benefit from your rage?
10.You rarely need your anger in order to be human. In fact, when you rid yourself of that sour irritability, you will feel greater zest, joy, peace, and productivity. You will experience liberation and enlightenment
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